The older I get the more I realize that life is too short to spend doing things you hate. Hate mowing the grass, hire someone to do it! Hate bathing your dogs? Outsource the task. Hate grocery shopping? Get them delivered for a nominal fee. I know this probably sounds crazy coming from a homesteader. After all, homesteading is all about being self sufficient and doing everything on your own, right? Yes, but truthfully life is too short to spend doing things you hate.
If you hate your home, move. If you hate your financial situation, fix it. If you don’t like the community of people you’ve surrounded yourself with, find new friends! I know I’m simplifying this to the most basic level but truly, create a life you love by getting rid of what you hate.
Personally, I hate junk & clutter. When I walk into a room I want to see only useful items or things that truly bring me joy. Christmas décor brings me joy but has no use. Other than that my normal home décor consists of some plants, some paintings, and a few throw blankets and pillows. Each items adds comfort to our home, brings joy, and the plants purify the air in the process. When I walk into my living room I don’t have to deal with tons of things to clean. I hate cleaning so it makes everything simple and easy for me to feel calm and relaxed when I come home from work each day. So here are my 10 steps to creating a life you love.
- Remove Things You Hate
With a vengeance, comb through your life and remove the things you hate. Jobs, habits, people, foods, whatever it is, cut it out!
- Do what makes you feel alive
I’ve come to realize that there are dozens of things that make me feel most alive and unfortunately I don’t do them enough. This year, set aside time to pursue the things that make you feel most alive.
- Turn Down the Noise
Do you know what noise clutter does to the brain? Research it! It’s terrifying and fascinating all at once. There’s tons of noise in our lives and even if it’s just for 10 minutes a day, be intentional about having some silence in your life for meditation, reflection, and helping your brain heal itself.
- Look Away from Screens
This one is a double edged sword because if you’re like me 99% of what you do for money is done through a screen. Even still, set aside time to look away! Read a book that pertains to what you love to do, sit down with a notebook and write out those thoughts instead of typing them, call someone instead of emailing, figure out a way to build more margins and spend less time glued to a screen.
- Invest Your $$$
I’m currently on my debt free journey but still manage to find a few dollars every month to invest in things I love. For me, that means donating to charities that are close to my heart and giving monthly to a non-profit that I feel is doing great work. While I may not be able to show up for the people they serve myself, I can invest a few dollars and know that I too am helping them on the way!
- Invest Your Time
Join a local charity, cook a friend a meal, sit down for coffee and chats with someone you haven’t spoken with in a while. Do something to invest your time into others. It will help you feel alive and you certainly won’t regret it.
- Meet Others with similar Interests
I love homesteading so anytime I meet another homesteader it sparks my interest and creativity all the more. My husband likes Jeeps and I’ve noticed an uptick in his mood when he goes off roading or hangs out with jeep friends. Find a group with your common interest and watch a whole new world open up right before your eyes.
- Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone
This one is hard for me but every time I’ve stepped outside my comfort zone I’ve felt terrified and wonderful! Step outside the comfort zone, do something you wouldn’t normally do. Experience new things and creatively pursue the life you love.
- Build A Clean and Tidy Environment
The cleaner my home, the happier I am. Also, the happier my marriage is. When our home is clean there is a 99% chance we will have nothing to fight about vs. when there is dirt, grime and clutter everywhere. Instead of blaming the mess, dishes or laundry on someone else do the job and reap the benefit of extra time spent with them as a result.
- Follow Your Passion, Not the Money
This one sounds cliché but follow your passion. Chance the things that make you feel alive. Build the life you love! There may be money there, there may not. Don’t let dollars be the determining factor. Follow after the life, dreams, and passions you know will make and build a better YOU!